Category Archives: expats

Self-handicapping: Are you sabotaging yourself to avoid evaluation or failure?

Posted on August 06, 2010 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

I was watching an old episode of Grey’s Anatomy – my only TV addiction – where a lawyer who’s about to take the Bar exam in a few days for the 5th time is brought in for severe burns in … Continue reading →

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Three fundamental human needs (Part 3): Being competent

Posted on Juli 17, 2009 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

One of the reasons why many of us are reluctant to try new endeavors is our need to feel competent. Especially if you are used to feeling competent in different domains in your work, relationships or leisurely activities it is … Continue reading →

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Three fundamental human needs (Part 2): How well are you fitting in?

Posted on Juli 10, 2009 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

Last time I wrote about one of our fundamental needs – the need to belong. There are a number of secondary needs that result from that. Wanting to fit in is a consequence of our need to belong.

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Three fundamental human needs (part 1): Need to belong and why I might be having difficulty making Dutch friends…

Posted on Juli 03, 2009 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

“Life in a foreign country is a dance of submission and resistance. Self-knowledge comes in small repeated shocks as you find yourself giving in easily, with a struggle, or not at all. What can you do without? What do you … Continue reading →

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You are an expat, therefore….

Posted on April 07, 2009 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

Anyone who hasn’t been stereotyped or prejudiced against? The answer is rarely “Me!”. So it’s highly likely that you’ll relate to what I’ll describe in this post – especially if you are among the “people on the move”; a group … Continue reading →

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