Category Archives: need to belong

Three fundamental human needs (Part 4): Can we be both autonomous and connected at the same time?

Posted on Juli 28, 2009 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

I think this is a question that many people struggle with from time to time.  The apparent conflict lies in thinking in terms of being autonomous/ independent versus connected as if these are two opposite ends of a continuum. If … Continue reading →

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Three fundamental human needs (Part 2): How well are you fitting in?

Posted on Juli 10, 2009 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

Last time I wrote about one of our fundamental needs – the need to belong. There are a number of secondary needs that result from that. Wanting to fit in is a consequence of our need to belong.

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Three fundamental human needs (part 1): Need to belong and why I might be having difficulty making Dutch friends…

Posted on Juli 03, 2009 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

“Life in a foreign country is a dance of submission and resistance. Self-knowledge comes in small repeated shocks as you find yourself giving in easily, with a struggle, or not at all. What can you do without? What do you … Continue reading →

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