Monthly Archives: Juli 2009

Three fundamental human needs (Part 4): Can we be both autonomous and connected at the same time?

Posted on Juli 28, 2009 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

I think this is a question that many people struggle with from time to time.  The apparent conflict lies in thinking in terms of being autonomous/ independent versus connected as if these are two opposite ends of a continuum. If … Continue reading →

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Three fundamental human needs (Part 3): Being competent

Posted on Juli 17, 2009 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

One of the reasons why many of us are reluctant to try new endeavors is our need to feel competent. Especially if you are used to feeling competent in different domains in your work, relationships or leisurely activities it is … Continue reading →

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Three fundamental human needs (Part 2): How well are you fitting in?

Posted on Juli 10, 2009 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

Last time I wrote about one of our fundamental needs – the need to belong. There are a number of secondary needs that result from that. Wanting to fit in is a consequence of our need to belong.

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Three fundamental human needs (part 1): Need to belong and why I might be having difficulty making Dutch friends…

Posted on Juli 03, 2009 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

“Life in a foreign country is a dance of submission and resistance. Self-knowledge comes in small repeated shocks as you find yourself giving in easily, with a struggle, or not at all. What can you do without? What do you … Continue reading →

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