Category Archives: perspectives

Self-handicapping: Are you sabotaging yourself to avoid evaluation or failure?

Posted on August 06, 2010 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

I was watching an old episode of Grey’s Anatomy – my only TV addiction – where a lawyer who’s about to take the Bar exam in a few days for the 5th time is brought in for severe burns in … Continue reading →

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Three fundamental human needs (Part 4): Can we be both autonomous and connected at the same time?

Posted on Juli 28, 2009 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

I think this is a question that many people struggle with from time to time.  The apparent conflict lies in thinking in terms of being autonomous/ independent versus connected as if these are two opposite ends of a continuum. If … Continue reading →

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Three fundamental human needs (Part 2): How well are you fitting in?

Posted on Juli 10, 2009 by Dr. Aliye Kurt - Suedhoff

Last time I wrote about one of our fundamental needs – the need to belong. There are a number of secondary needs that result from that. Wanting to fit in is a consequence of our need to belong.

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